After reading thru 4 pages of this (which I am still laughing at), unless I missed something (highly possible at my advanced state of senility), I think I may have found the flaw. I'm one of the anal people who has all the screws north/south & all lights off if all switches are down ... then along came the wife. She wanted the old rotary dimmer on the dining room 3way. Now I'm scr... uh ... out of luck.
