The exception clearly says if the conductors of the MWBC come in on a single cable they are "grouped".
Exception: The requirement for grouping shall not apply if the circuit enters from a cable or raceway unique to the circuit that makes the grouping obvious.
As for the paired breakers, it sounds more reasonable than a lot of new code rules we have seen. I always wondered why this wasn't a code rule. It certainly avoids confusion a few years down the road.
These are both things conscientious electricians have always done.